Sunday, February 9, 2008 I walked down to the basement playroom in my home, determined to return to the civilization above in due time with a gift for the woman I loved most in this world, my mother. Like most thirteen-year old boys, my income (allowance) was pretty limited at about $30 per month. So, my gift buying ability was slightly hampered. I spent the week prior trying to figure how I could best stretch my dollars to buy a gift that would be meaningful and truly show my love. Flowers, chocolate, stuffed animals, a cute Hallmark card, or a gift card all seemed like decent ideas, but each of those gifts lacked the originality I wanted my gift to have.
So there I found myself in the basement, with nothing to show for all the mental effort I had already given this Valentine's gift. I sat behind the computer for a few minutes and that's when I stumbled on a how-to video showing how to make a paper rose. "That was it!" I thought as I watched the video. "I will make an entire bouquet, a dozen roses." It had all the elements of the perfect gift for my mom.
After watching the video through a few times, I was ready to start making my own. I gathered everything I needed: a hot glue gun, construction paper, scissors, and a pencil. I sat down on the floor and began. Five hours into the crafting, my fingers were dried and cut from the paper, my knuckles were red and swollen from the scissors, and my hands had areas burned by the hot glue gun. I had only four roses finished. Unable to finish the dozen I had hoped for, I was slightly disappointed, but I was proud of the beautiful roses I had made, and I knew that they would make her happy.
A few days later, Valentine's Day had come. I placed the intricate roses in one of the crystal vases we had in our cabinets. At her place on the kitchen table, I set the vase and a simple, handmade card. When the time came to open the presents we had been given, my mom's reaction to the roses and card made my battered hands and hours spent in the basement worth it. She loved it then, and loves it still.
The gift I gave was perfect in her eyes. The time and thoughtfulness I put into those roses showed her how much I love and care for her. An economist might say that my gift was not the most efficient use of time or resources, and that it would have been far more efficient for me to give her cash; however, I know that it is not the monetary value of the gift that really matters. The personal value is what matters; the handmade roses exceeded anything my money could buy.
The four-rose bouquet still sits in the crystal vase as it did the day I gave it to her. The symbolism of the roses endures even today and, unlike money, it will never lose its value. It cannot get more efficient than that.